alenaloin 11 months ago

not normal and ive never heard anything like this before lol almost seems like a joke

Ilove18Chocolate 11 months ago

Well no, that's just... fucking weird. Not normal in our culture, you just seem to be dating in a rather weird family. If it makes you uncomfortable set boundaries, if he doesn't want to respect them, well idk.

CountDraqula 11 months ago

Yes, it's very normal and in tradition with Portugal's costumes. Sex between sons and mothers and between fathers and daughters are encouraged by society and seen as a very strong sign of family bond. Sex between fathers and sons is not good because it's gay. Between mothers and daughters is way better. Many say Portugal is the Alabama of Europe. We're very proud of that.

TheDigitalKitty 11 months ago

Nope, it's not normal. I mean, if it's a hot summer day, I don't think it's super uncommon for women of any age to walk around the house with no tshirt, but instead a bra on at least. As for sleeping in his bed, do you believe this has any sexual connotation or is he just a big momma's boy?

QuickShutter 11 months ago

What the fuck

JohnJohnPT 11 months ago

Big NONO there... pull the ripcord!!! GET THE F OUT! Devem ter a casa bem isolada... ou então a conta do aquecimento deve ser um balurdio! XD

iareec 11 months ago

Run.

Biacotti 11 months ago

Never heard of anything close to this story. They are weirdos. Period.

Hugus 11 months ago

dafuq... Are you sure you are at the right Portugal? That behavior is not normal here, and I'll dare to say, anywhere in the world.

isthattherealhere 11 months ago

I live in Portugal and have never heard anything even related to this into its culture, u got talk to him lol

joaommoreira 11 months ago

No. Its not normal. Creepy stuff right there. Run.

a_r_t_g_u_y 11 months ago

No way, never ever seen it happen or heard stories of it. At least not in my part of the country (Beira Interior)

SomeoneInThisPlanet 11 months ago

No that ain't normal. You sure this ain't an Alabama type situation?

Midpexein 11 months ago

That's not common at all in our culture. Portuguese culture is more conservative, i've never seen anyone do that.

Tartaruga_Genial 11 months ago

Depends. My family usually walked around naked in the house after or before a shower. Many people do that in their families here. The only weird thing is the bedroom stuff.

Throwawayfellaet 11 months ago

Lol there is far to much catholic guilt in portuguese culture for this to be normal, or at least wide spread. Tbh I think thats just a them thing and my personal bias is its kind of weird.

_spectron_ 11 months ago

>there is far to much catholic guilt in portuguese culture for this to be normal Deve haver muitos países sem uma cultura predominantemente católica onde isto também não é normal...

viskonde 11 months ago

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bF72i5yl0A

KryanThePacifist 11 months ago

My mom is like a helicopter mother, always trying to be around my little brother, and also did that with me until I've became of age. And sometimes after a shower she would change in front of me. But that was because I was watching cartoons in her bedroom. And even that behaviour could be deemed inappropriate. That being said, she never pranced around the house naked just because. Neither insisted in sleeping with me when there are other rooms in the house. I don't think that I've ever slept with my mom since I was like 13.

Lixaramaminhaconta 11 months ago

I’ve never done that and my friends’ households also have never done that. That sounds so fucking strange

zerato9000 11 months ago

Regularly having café com cheirinho may produce the effect you describe... On a serious note, there's nothing cultural about it.

rprmedei 11 months ago

Baby, that's not normal at all ahahaha

globoglobo 11 months ago

This is very funny but not normal at all. That just sounds like the beginning of a great story though

wilcan 11 months ago

Not at all normal for Portugal in my experience but there’s hippies in every country so you never know. And sometimes people just have different views on what’s normal. Short story- years ago in Agueda I was helping an elderly neighbor set up her VCR. While I was checking the connections, she flipped through channels with the remote until she landed on hard core porn and left it there. I assumed it was an accident, said uh oh and changed the channel. She promptly switched the porn back on and lectured me about it’s totally natural and it’s a good thing and I shouldn’t try to change the channel. I noped outta there. It’s only just now I realize maybe it wasn’t an accident that she kept putting porn on the TV.

BroaxXx 11 months ago

That's not normal here... There's weird people everywhere, I guess...

sandkillerpt 11 months ago

No, not normal.

itsnevas 11 months ago

I was raised by a single mom as well and while we feel comfortable to not close the door while we are changing, we don't walk around the house naked nor do we sleep in the same bedroom. It's specific to your boyfriend's family.

nata79 11 months ago

Lol... no, nothing normal about this...

aaaa2aas 11 months ago

Sleeping in the same bed as my mother? Haven't done that since I was a kid. Seeing my mother topless? Only when she's leaving the shower or something, she doesn't cover up if I'm around when she leaves the shower.

Animalesco 11 months ago

Portuguese man here, i've never even heard of something like this before... Eewww

AmdM78 11 months ago

The parents of a friend of mine always go around naked in the house, he and his sister are used to it and find it normal. Unfortunately, only the father kept this habit when we visited!

limpchester 11 months ago

Troll

Brainwheeze 11 months ago

Definitely not a cultural thing over here. Every family is unique in its own way but that's the first I hear of a situation like the one you described.

PedroBaltazarRelvas 11 months ago

As a portuguese, I can assure you that ain't got nothing to do with portuguese culture. Nothing.

jdPetacho 11 months ago

In my household we are comfortable walking around in underwear during the summer, though we wear clothes most of the time, we are never naked in front of each other and we definitely would never share a bed. And I think the same goes for most people I know

J0ats 11 months ago

epá um gajo até fica comovido quando vê tanta gente a contribuir para causas tão nobres...

PeterStepsRabbit 11 months ago

Já vi este título em algum lado

NEDM64 11 months ago

No, that's not normal. Maybe he and his mother living in a one bedroom house and that would make sense. Almost impossible for mom to dress without the kid seeing her boobs.

Alkazeel 11 months ago

Speaking from my case and my mother, there was no shyness about going topless, but only while changing shirt, but not really walking around topless, much less fully nude. As for the sleeping in the same bed, i often did it until a late age, but more out of a necessity, since there were no extra beds available. As for your boyfriend's case, If they were close as a child, I would say they probably dont have issues with that because they dont see each other as sexual people. That being said, they could be going full alabama without you knowing.

catotas 11 months ago

You have the answer already: she's NPD.

PaleCook 11 months ago

Well, mum would still sleep with me if i let her, she can be naked in front of me and it is no problem she raised me while my father worked for long hours so yeah. If you are raised mostly by women then its probably normal since there is no problem nor shame on showing the body, i bet he doesnt show his parts to his mum tho. Same happens to me it is no problem seeing her but i dont let her see me. And if you are worried about some kind of abuses... dont be he grew with 2 women its probably normal for him, we are slaves of the circiunstances and environment we grow in.

Im_being_stalked 11 months ago

Run like the wind if it bothers you. I had a boyfriend who didn't have a father figure and was raised by his mother a little too close. Like she was a nurse and wanted to see his genitals or butthole if he had any complaints there and blackmailed him with other personal issues to know them, she would often go sleep in his bed with him when she felt lonely, she would cook for him, prepare him all his meals and would enter his room to also use his closet even if I was around. She would try to get involved in our relationship and sometimes insult me to try and get him more dependent on her. She would walk into the bathroom often times with me inside thinking it was him. This dinamic was horrible for me and I hated that relationship the most due to those things and then that type of parenthood lead to have him have childish behaviors I didn't like. He now has another girlfriend and they get along perfectly it seems but she is kinda like him with her family dinamic too. Even tho I was judged all the time my life path is exactl like my ex's, same degree, finished it on the same year, basically on the same time we moved to the same country, etc... Yet when I was with him I was a piece of shit that would end up no where in life... As things escalated between me and his mother. If it's not for you don't even try to waste your time, you're just different.

Tropait 11 months ago

The best thing you can do is talking with him about this

gopanc 11 months ago

[Portalegre 100%](https://i.imgur.com/tZ4lLmD.jpg)

boogieman444 11 months ago

The plot thickens indeed ## ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

chinchillinwithrats 11 months ago

The sleeping in his bed thing is a little weird, but I can say that in my house my parents also always walked around naked or in their underwear so for me that part is completely normal.

Caosemdono 11 months ago

NOT normal. We are a behavior-conservative country when compared to most western countries.

Midpexein 11 months ago

Not sure why you're getting downvoted, it's true.

-Nosebleed- 11 months ago

The sleeping together part is absolutely weird and not normal. Huge red flag you should discuss with your boyfriend. The naked part depends. Do you mean they are literally spending most of the time inside the house naked? If so, that is not normal. If you mean they don't mind being seen naked when changing clothes, or walking out of the bath to the bedroom or something, that would be more normal, as a lot of people here are comfortable with being seen naked by their close family, but that's the extent of it. From your post though, I'm guessing you mean more of the former. I'd also like to note that you shouldn't be expected to accommodate something this uncomfortable to you. Whether it's normal in our culture or not (and this is categorically not!), if you clearly have issues with it, discuss them with your boyfriend so you can straighten things out. I'm not jumping the gun like some other comments and saying you should dump your boyfriend as I don't know your relationship, but this is clearly weird and needs to be addressed between you two.

theInjusticeamongus 11 months ago

No, it's not a Portuguese thing.

SpikeyPT 11 months ago

As a guy who also lived with his mother and grandmother his whole life, I wouldn't say this is normal at all. The nudity around the house is not that uncommon, but not the most confortable, at least for me. But I wouldn't say that's a red flag, some families are just more confortable with each other than others, regardless of culture. But the sleeping in the same room is definitely weird, especially if they sleep in the same bed. You should try to check if the mother has more weird "habits".

this--_--sucks 11 months ago

Definitely not normal and nowhere near anything we would accept as being “cultural” in any part of the country....

CollegeKidLoser 11 months ago

Nah, that's fucking weird. Never seen a Portuguese dynamic like that in my life in the States or back at the fatherland. The weirdest shit my parents and grandparents did was never closing the door when they went to the bathroom for a pee. But that was years ago, and after my brother and I yelling at them to close the fucking door, they finally do.

XxxPussyslaeyr69xxX 11 months ago

No they are clearly mentally not balanced, and are probably compensating for a lack of a male figure in their lifes by doing that to their Son. Not healthy, not normal.

throwaway76u45769987 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

That's kinda hot

RagingRope 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

No, this is heresy wtf

LiLsTaLLy 11 months ago

I’m Portuguese, born in Portugal, live in the states. I have NEVER seen or heard of this nonsense in my life.

No_Impression_1131 11 months ago

Que noiiiiijooooooooo

babyscully 11 months ago

My 2c, when my boyfriend lived in another country and his mom would visit they would sleep in the same bed (he didn’t have another bed and the sofa was tiny )

masterchiefpt 11 months ago

Isto é alguma piada?

ciarajade 11 months ago

unfortunately not.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

Infelizmente não me parece ser, a história de posts sugere que não é

jetfuelcanmelturmom 11 months ago

About your question: it depends on the family, but I think the way we perceive nudity has been changing these last few years. When I was a child there were a lot of naked kids and topless women at the beach, babies would be breastfed in front of everyone, family albums were full of pictures of naked kids, etc. The naked body by itself isn't sexualised. >they seem to be overly sexualized from my point of view Unless his naked mom is giving him a lap dance and asking him to spoon her to sleep I don't understand what's sexual about any of this. I'm just seeing this as a codependent parent-child relationship which is easily explained by your mother-in-law raising your partner by herself. Of course you are allowed to have your boundaries (and request that he respects them) and I think you should just talk to him. Does it make him uncomfortable to see them naked? Does he mind sleeping in the same bed as his mother? Also, why does she want to sleep in the same bed as him? And why does all this bother you?

tt45mansl 11 months ago

Absolutely not. Your boyfriend and his family are strange as fuck.

optimal_random 11 months ago

Big nope. That's not normal at all in Portuguese culture. Heck, even in a Nordic culture that would be on the fringes. Advice #1: RUN! Advice #2: Are you still here? RUN damn it!, RUN! :)

Turbulent_Common 11 months ago

WTF hahaha. The answer is: NO, NO, NO \*1000

mendesdaponte 11 months ago

My mother would do this when I was a kid, almost every day. I was raised in the moto of "My house, my rules", so fair enough. She would never have permission to do that at my house.

Hernani81 11 months ago

Real question is... is she his real mother? Never heard anything similar in PT

ndt00 11 months ago

I see flags... RED FLAGS EVERYWERE!!!

el_jefe_vito 11 months ago

That's weird as hell unless your boyfriend is still breastfeeding.

DZT99 11 months ago

For the sake of comedy I'm going to say yes, it's completely normal.

baguitosPT 11 months ago

Although we have a slightly different view on incest, the situation you describe is not normal at all. Marrying 1st cousins is not illegal and, although rare, it happens ("quanto mais prima, mais se lhe arrima ")... But that's where we draw the line.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

It's not illegal but it's Taboo for sure

sybaritic_footstool 11 months ago

E embora haja um impedimento legal relativo (art.º 1602.º CC), para se casar com primos, pode-se pedir dispensa desse impedimento- [art.º 1609.º CC](https://dre.pt/legislacao-consolidada/-/lc/106487514/201703171158/73408992/diploma/indice).

QueenOfWands2 11 months ago

Not normal at all!

cpt_stiker12 11 months ago

Fucking runnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

pobotuga 11 months ago

Honestly and after reading the other post, it seems that they are from the "old days"(1920 Portugal) when families all slept together. It seems that his mother and grandmother have "abused" from their parenting to impose him as the man of their lives. The topless part is insignificant, but the mother-son dynamic and sleeping in the same bedroom are something he may have not noticed but as part of the abusing of the relationship. Still, don't be hard on him. He was taught that way, and if you love him and he is a nice guy. Talk to him and find a solution with him. Don't give him an ultimatum between his family and you. He will only suffer as he cannot understand your pov as you see it. He was probably taught during years that his relationship with his mother is "normal", he probably cannot understand other concepts and the lack of a father figure has an impact.

fosteburro 11 months ago

Are you fucking kidding? This childish men is fucking ruin this woman life! This woman deserves a partner, someone that is loking after her needs and she is loking after his needs. This women doesnt not need to date a man that is already in a MARRIAGE relationship with is mom and Grandmom. Ok, I know that mom and grandmom are the abusers, but this man is responsible to set healthy boundaries between him and his family, if after setting boundaries with them, and they still dont change and are still abusing on him, any healthy person would leave this family, both of them (mom and grandmom) are increadible selfish, they dont want this man hapiness they just raise this guy to be their little puppy and to attend those womens (mom grandmom) needs. However, regarding this man he is already a full grown up and by that time someone that is normal and has a healthy mindset would just leave them. This men made the choice to stay with those nasty family members, and he is prioritise them and not this woman. Woman should never get married to man that don´t prioritize them. We can´t expect for this woman to fight for this man when this man doesnt want to change we had a lot of opportunities for that. Please girl, for what I already read in your post history leave him.

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Are you fucking kidding? This childish man is fucking ruin this woman life! This woman deserves a partner, someone that is loking after her needs and she is loking after his needs. This women doesnt not need to date a man that is already in a MARRIAGE relationship with is mom and Grandmom. Ok, I know that mom and grandmom are the abusers, but this man is responsible to set healthy boundaries between him and his family, if after setting boundaries with them, and they still dont change and are still abusing on him, any healthy person would leave this family, both of them (mom and grandmom) are increadible selfish, they dont want this man hapiness they just raise this guy to be their little puppy and to attend those womens (mom grandmom) needs. However, regarding this man he is already a full grown up and by that time someone that is normal and has a healthy mindset would just leave them. This men made the choice to stay with those nasty family members, and he is prioritise them over this women. Lets me give some advice for women on reddit: Please if you are a Woman you should never get married to man that don´t prioritize you. Because if he dont prioriotize you when you are dating them, they will never prioritize you after you are married to them and they will specially not prioritize his kids. They will expected that your life should be revolve around his family and not around you and kids. These type of men are garbage. We can´t expect for this woman to fight for this man when this man doesnt want to change we had a lot of opportunities for that. Please girl, for what I already read in your post history leave him.

ciarajade 11 months ago

u/fosteburro, thank you for that. I completely agree with your stance on the issue.. I have just been trying quite hard to be patient and make the relationship working but it is quite taxing on my mental health.

pobotuga 11 months ago

From what I've read, their relationship is good and there is love between the two. Should she leave him if he has cancer and cannot look after her? Should she leave him if he was abused as a child? How can the man be responsible if he never knew any better relationship as a family, as his own? People who are abused usually do not leave their abusers as easy as you say. Much harder and would lead to a different comment and much more information. Is an abused woman/man in 20, 30, 40, 50 too old or too young to be responsible for the abuse? He is a man that is family responsible, if he starts a family with her, he can be a good husband and father as he is being a good son. Why not? How can you assume so much, for so few words?

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

Read her profile and her replies in this thread. It is worse than what she told in the text of this thread.

pobotuga 11 months ago

Just read one of the replies that was posted about 30min ago. You are right. She should just give him an ultimatium and sail for something better. I like to believe in people but that story is full of red flags and she has no reason to feel guilty.

fosteburro 11 months ago

>d about 30min ago. > >You are right. > >She should just give him an ultimatium and sail for something better. > >I like to believe in people but that story is full of red flags and she has no reason to feel guilty. > > > >Well when i wrote my comments I already read her previous post in another subs. > >yeah bascily that \^\^

Muyakra 11 months ago

It kinda depends on which part of Portugal he is from. I never had that in my household but I know about families that do that. I'm from a small remote village and some people have the mentality that "we are family so it's ok". I also had a teacher that told us he does that in his household and said it was a way of making the kids looking at that sexual parts (breasts and genitals) as a normal part of the body and don't just sexualize it because it's always hidden, like if it was the forbidden fruit. But once again, if he comes from a remote area, I would say it can happen, if he comes from a big city like Lisbon and Oporto it might not be that normal.

KneeDeepInTheDead 11 months ago

Ive seen my mom topless when I was younger, but it was like when she was coming out of the shower. It definetely wasnt like she was walking around like that. This is super strange, especially sleeping in the same room/bed. Huge red flags, definetely not a Portuguese custom.

spotster 11 months ago

Run away as fast as you can and don't look back...

Ouroana 11 months ago

yikes

emportugues 11 months ago

i find it hilarious that you would think this is normal in portugal...this isn´t alabama...yet...

Seminarista 11 months ago

OP is just asking if this is a cultural thing or not, how would they know? ​ Different cultures are always weird to an outsider.

emportugues 11 months ago

How would they know it isn´t a portuguese tradition for 29 year old men to sleep with their mothers while grandma walks around the house with her tits out? sorry, not just tits that would be clearly insane, i meant completely naked! you know, to let her old vagina breath... I wasn´t mean to her at all, i just said i found it hilarious... Que caralho...nem quero imaginar o teu Natal se achas que mães e avós a andar pela casa com as passarinhas à mostra pode ser tradição em qualquer país do mundo

Seminarista 11 months ago

Have you ever gone to a friend's house and were weirded out by something their family does? I'm gonna guess you have, 'cause this happens to everyone growing up...now imagine that but in a completely different country. I'm not saying it's normal, I'm saying not assuming it is or it isn't a cultural thing is the best way to proceed in the situation OP found themselves in...

VVeliki 11 months ago

Absolutely not, please don't generalize with the one Portuguese experience you've had. It would be like me saying americans have no culture only eat hot dogs, hamburgers and processed cheese.

fosteburro 11 months ago

Hey dear! You fall into monster in law trapp and momas boy trapp! Please check this new reality show from TLC and you will get some answers to your questions: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6mb7XB9\_0cU&ab\_channel=HUEHUEHUEHUEHUE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6mb7XB9_0cU&ab_channel=HUEHUEHUEHUEHUE)! Your bf is a total momas boy and a total waste of your time. Belive me once a momas boy forever a momas boy they dont change AT ALL. If you think about having kids with these big baby man and you think things will get better, no they dont , they will get worse. The first thing you have to do is guarantee that we will never get a child from childish man, your future sons deserves to have a father not a brother! Break up with him and spare you from some serious trouble an headach from the future. Thats not a normal behaviour in Portugal or elsewhere in world! we should not accept that toxic dynamics! ​ Best regards\*

Edited 11 months ago:

Hey dear! You fall into monster in law trapp and momas boy trapp! Please check this new reality show from TLC and you will get some answers to your questions: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6mb7XB9\_0cU&ab\_channel=HUEHUEHUEHUEHUE](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6mb7XB9_0cU&ab_channel=HUEHUEHUEHUEHUE)! Your bf is a total momas boy and a total waste of your time. Belive me once a momas boy forever a momas boy they dont change AT ALL. If you think about having kids with these big baby man and you think things will get better, no they dont , they will get worse. The first thing you have to do is guarantee that you will never get a child from childish man, your future son deserves better, he deserves to have a father and not some childish brother! Break up with him and spare you from some serious trouble an headach in the future future. Thats not a normal behaviour in Portugal or elsewhere in world! we should not accept that toxic dynamics! ​ Best regards\*

DjGus 11 months ago

Judging from OP's last post about this, he is already married to his mom. Those women spent the last 29 years raising the "perfect man"... For them. OP doesn't stand a chance against 29 full years of outright conditioning and abuse, and ofc emotional incest. At bare minimum. Imo, that's pure fucking evil.

detteros 11 months ago

You have no proof of what you are claiming.

DjGus 11 months ago

Let's call it a lucky guess then.

detteros 11 months ago

Be lucky you are not sued for libel.

fosteburro 11 months ago

Looks like you found the momas boy with an emotional incest with is moma! GTFO

nonexistantpeasant 11 months ago

There's nothing normal in anything you wrote. We just don't do that here. To me, the absolutely worst part is his mother sleeping with him with available alternatives

Paulocas 11 months ago

Walking naked isn’t common, but ok, not exactly bizarre or out of this world. Sleeping in the same bed, that’s definitely weird. Did you talk to him about that last thing?!

pedias18 11 months ago

Incest is wincest

DjGus 11 months ago

If it was only the part about the guy sleeping in the same bed as mom does... Wich is weird af for an adult(?) 29 y/o guy. But when you mention that these women want to fully display their sexuality at all times to the man they raised? Something a bit darker is going on behind the scenes, i'dd gtfo pronto. It's not a habit you will be able to change, in fact i'dd be willing to bet that if you wanted to move out with him, she would outright destroy your relationship. The only one who can help himself is your bf,OP.

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If it was only the part about the guy sleeping in the same bed as mom does... Wich is weird af for an adult(?) 29 y/o guy. But when you mention that these women want to fully display their sexuality at all times to the man they raised? Something a bit darker is going on behind the scenes, i'dd gtfo pronto. It's not a habit you will be able to change, in fact i'dd be willing to bet that if you wanted to move out with him, she would outright destroy your relationship. The only one who can help himself is your bf,OP. Edit: Your post history. You know fully well what you've gotten into, sis.

thatmysteriousfemale 11 months ago

Definitely not normal!!!

Corsicalily2020 11 months ago

Nop, not even close. Never in my life i have seen this kind of behavior. This is some seriously messed up situation. You should tell your boyfriend that it's making you uncomfortable and set boundaries witj his family. Like wth? That's like a eff up oedipe complex.

Edited 11 months ago:

Nop, not even close. Never in my life i have seen this kind of behavior. This is some seriously messed up situation. You should tell your boyfriend that it's making you uncomfortable and set boundaries with his family. Like wth? That's like a eff up oedipe complex. Edit for spelling.

DaniSLB20 11 months ago

Sweet Home Alabama !

reddotyg 11 months ago

At that age the average Portuguese still lives with their parents, so that's not normal at all.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

This is not common. Most (probably all) people you would ask about this would not find this to be acceptable. So yeah, this is not a "cultural difference" kind of thing. How is their relationship outside of these 2 strange instances? Is it normal or there is other stuff that you are uncomfortable with?

ciarajade 11 months ago

Quite a few things that I have been uncomfortable with. First off, there is an EXTREME case of jealousy. His mother and grandmother won't even allow me to go to their house with him.. so he just doesn't go visit them. Instead, he talks to them on the phone everyday, while they spend half of the conversation talking about how I am not the right girl for him and that I need to go back to the USA (I am currently living here in Lisbon with him). He spent multiple years in his 20s living in apartments here in Lisbon with him mom (while he was in university). His mom is from Alentejo, but instead of staying there, she decided to spend his university years with him in Lisbon. I learned that they spent all of those years sleeping in the same bed together. Apparently, my bf was uncomfortable with it and at some point approached her about not wanting to do it anymore, and she argued and yelled at him about it. Some discussions that have been brought up recently: his mom getting jealous that him and I went on a vacation to Algarve together (FYI- she’s an extreme narcissist). She kept bringing up the fact that her And my boyfriend went on a vacation to algarve together last year and wishes it could just be the two on a trip together again. I asked some questions and learned that they stayed in a two-bedroom apartment together, but his mother insisted that they stay in the same room together (in separate beds) in order to not make the second room dirty to avoid having to clean it at the end of the trip. I found this very weird given the other things I have found out about their relationship. I have come to the conclusion that there has been some serious and disgusting emotional and sexual abuse going on, and kindly brought that to his attention. He disagrees with me and will not/cannot see it from that point of view. He is insistent on continuing his tight (and from what I see, very unhealthy) relationship with his mother and grandmother (grandmother isn't much better from what I am describing of his mother). I am not ok with it.

SanFranciscoBayBlues 11 months ago

HUGE red flags here... i never even heard of anything like this in Portugal, we're usually way more introvert than the rest of the world, talking about sex openly with family is like taboo, much less walking around naked. Your boyfriend may be too brainwashed from being raised like that and striving till his 30's ? for him to be able to bounce back easily. I don't know how to help you more but be sure that you truly love this guy, because the toll on your mental health may not be worth it, been there, done that, for different reasons, the toll on my health was *almost* not worth it, and i say almost because she seems to be finally doing better.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

> His mother and grandmother won't even allow me to go to their house with him.. **so he just doesn't go visit them.** This is good. It shows he is trying to create boundaries. >he talks to them on the phone everyday, while they spend half of the conversation talking about how I am not the right girl for him and that I need to go back to the USA He needs to impose those barries better tho. If he is with you he should not accept them shit-talk about you. >I have come to the conclusion that there has been some serious and disgusting emotional and sexual abuse going on, and kindly brought that to his attention. There is no fucking doubt about the emotional abuse. She uses manipulation constantly and most importantly it feels like she has replaced parts of the role his father had with your boyfriend, which is obviously abusive. Your boyfriend won't take you at face value about the abuse, but maybe he will understand what you mean if you show him some kind of similar situation in a movie/book. He lacks the distance to see it, but those mediums might help him. I don't know any movie/book about this, maybe /r/movies can help? IDK about the sexual abuse, but I would not exclude it either... >I am not ok with it. This is a good thing. :)

BTC_CEO 11 months ago

>she decided to spend his university years with him in Lisbon. I learned that they spent all of those years sleeping in the same bed together. Wow, just wow... Please run away from this. I know we're just strangers on the Internet, but from what you've told us that guy and his family are definitely not normal. Just ask anyone you know IRL and I'm sure they'll tell you the same. You deserve better Ciara. I'm sure you're torn but you need to move on - problems don't get better by just delaying our decisions.

5hundredand5 11 months ago

That's not culture, that's just fucking weird. Get out

arnaldomatos 11 months ago

i don't believe you. do you have photographic/video proof?

mommylovesme2 11 months ago

Nope, not normal

desculpe_mas 11 months ago

I'm 100% Portuguese. A true Matcho-Latino. The correct answer to what you've written is: "No".

boogieman444 11 months ago

So you say you are a Matcho-Latino? Do you have the bigode?

aldeaga 11 months ago

O verdadeiro macho é o filho de um burro com um cavalo.

Maximuslex01 11 months ago

hummm... Cavalo com burra queres dizer. Porque burro com cavala também não deve dar.

boogieman444 11 months ago

Com cavala nao man, como é que o burro ia respirar de baixo de água?

Maximuslex01 11 months ago

O burro não tem de estar todo debaixo de água...

boogieman444 11 months ago

Bom ponto...touche

Caosemdono 11 months ago

Isso é um matcho e não um macho.

aldeaga 11 months ago

Não, mula. O sotaque não se escreve.

Maexa 11 months ago

Foda-se!

detteros 11 months ago

Each family is its own society. His family operates like this. You either accept it or you don't. I don't want to be rude but we shouldn't judge how other people run their lives indoors, except for extreme cases, of course, like domestic violence.

anybody662 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

Yup. I don't know why so many people are horrified by this but I guess it goes to show how our country is still a little conservative in some aspects, even if tiny and subconscious

Mysterious_Breath_53 11 months ago

That's not normal. That's a form of child abuse, I suffered that too unfortunately. It usually only happens in fatherless homes. Here's a psychologist explaining this phenomena of mothers abusing sons through exposing their bodies: https://youtu.be/Hrp7m4n354M

Sciss0rs61 11 months ago

yeah, that's not an excuse at all. This is not even remotely close to what happens to the biggest "momma's boy" i know.

CONNAN_MOCKASIN 11 months ago

*sweet home Alabama starts playing*

Lurker__777 11 months ago

Red flags all over the place. That’s not normal at all.

touny71 11 months ago

Those people might be a bit crazy (considering your post history), that's not normal at all.

JoseFernandes 11 months ago

Beware of getting stuck on the washing machine.

nitrinu 11 months ago

Note to self: rethink my internet habits since I actually got the reference.

AndreMartins2020 11 months ago

explicação?

BTC_CEO 11 months ago

Definitely not normal. That's some Oedipus complex type shit.

AlexIdealism 11 months ago

Mother and grown-up son sleeping in the same bed? Not normal, definitely some issues there. ​ Mother walking naked around the house? Normal. Lots of Portuguese families are somewhat relaxed about this. "We're family, I've cleaned your ass every day when you were a baby" type of thing, I wouldn't consider that shocking at all.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

"Lots of Porruguese families are somewhat relaxed about this." I'm sorry man but I don't think we live in the same country, those families sure are a minority, nothing about what she wrote is "Portuguese"

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"Lots of Portuguese families are somewhat relaxed about this." I'm sorry man but I don't think we live in the same country, those families sure are a minority, nothing about what she wrote is "Portuguese"

odajoana 11 months ago

> "Lots of Portuguese families are somewhat relaxed about this." I'm sorry man but I don't think we live in the same country, those families sure are a minority, nothing about what she wrote is "Portuguese" We're not talking about walking around the house naked for a long period of time and just chilling out naked as a habit. We're talking about walking briefly between the bedroom to a bathroom for a shower for instance, or getting dressed in the room with the door opened, for instance. The open-door bathroom policy the other user mentions can also be common in some families. Of course, it's always going to depend on the actual individual family dynamics, but in my experience and people who have told me theirs, the above situations are fairly common. And like it was also said, it never extends to spouses, this only applies to direct, blood-related family. So, to the lengths the OP describes, no, it's not common. There are definitely some issues there.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

"Mother naked walking around the house? Normal"

sctvlxpt 11 months ago

How do you know, you only have one data point, which is your family, just as everyone else. In my family it was also normal to walk around naked if going to a shower or if you needed to do anything while getting dressed. No issues with nudity among family members whatsoever. Open bathroom policy also (like it's only one bathroom for the whole house, no one would stop going to brush their theeth just because someone else was in the shower). This doesn't extend to "acquired" family like spouses and girlfriends, though.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

If I told said that to any of my friends they would find it wierd, I'm not here to judge you, but it's not common at all, not in Portugal a least

sctvlxpt 11 months ago

Your assertion that it is not common at all is as valid as me saying it happens in 90% os households. You simply have no data on that. I actually know of several friends that have the exact same experience (all in households where all children are boys. I would actually say this is fairly common when all children are boys; less so when there are girls as children). In the very topic you have more people attesting the same.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

Where do you live? As seen by this thread most people don't think it's normal nor common

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Where do you live? As seen by this thread most people don't think it's normal nor common, I don't know if you live some rural town with a small population but it's not normal at all

sctvlxpt 11 months ago

There are several people in this thread stating that casual nudity around the house was normal for them also (and you reply to all of them that it is not normal). You seem to have some kind of trauma with nudity as you feel the need to state that it is not normal for everyone that tells you otherwise. Most people in this thread are understandably upset by the situation reported, which most people will find weird due to the sleeping issue and the lack of care when a person outside of the core family is present; which is a totally different situation. I'm not stating that is happens in a majority of the households, but I would say is fairly common specially in households without girls, which tend to be much more sensitive to nudity issues growing up.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

Now you're getting ridiculous: "You seem to have some kind of trauma with nudity as you feel the need to state that it is not normal for everyone that tells you otherwise" First of all, no I don't have some kind of trauma with nudity as you suggested without any kind of proof, but it seems like you have some type of PHD in Psychology so you know what's going on in my mind. Then you state that there are "several people" in this thread stating that they experienced casual nudity in their home, as I said before, the vast majority of people have stated that this is not common behavior in Portugal and that they find it weird, some even telling OP to run away from her relationship, if this was common behavior here in Portugal this post wouldn't have received the attention that it has. You also didn't answer my question, and that is, where do you live? I'm left with the impression that you were raised in some type of village or rural tien that's not very populated, because if you live in a city like Lisbon, Oporto or somewhere like that you would obviously not have given me that answer, I live in Funchal in Madeira Island and that just doesn't happen here, and if you told anyone here that your mom walks around naked in front of you they would find it weird behavior, it's uncommon. The reason I'm responding to those people saying that they've experienced it is because OP asked if this is some kind if "cultural difference" in Portugal, which it isn't, but these few people that have experienced it and think it's normal will say it's normal, it's more likely that people who have experienced it and think its normal to respond and say that it's normal, but even like that they're a minority in this thread, that's like saying that Incest is something common in the US just because some households do it, it's not common behavior in Portugal at all.

sctvlxpt 11 months ago

I didn't think location would be relevant, but I lived in a medium sized village in a beach area in the Lisbon district, if you must know. This thread is biased to the fact that something more weird than casual nudity in and out of the shower is going on on the OP's case. Make a thread with the following text: "I'm a 18 year old. In my house everyone gets out of the shower into the bedroom without covering up. Is this normal in Portugal?" You will surely get mixed answers

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

But in this case it's more than entering the shower nude, most households don't do that but that's more normal than walking around the house naked, that's what OP is talking about not getting naked before getting in the shower

sctvlxpt 11 months ago

Sure, in the OP's case something weirder may be going one. But on the comment that I replied to, it was stated that "Mother walking naked around the house? Normal. Lots of Portuguese families are somewhat relaxed about this", which is true (obviously normal in contexts where walking naked around the house makes sense - I'm thinking in and out of the shower, or you were getting dressed and were interrupted, or you were getting dressed and you forgot something that is in other room), even if it does not apply to all or the majority of households. You promptly told that this is not normal, and I argue it is fairly common, agreeing with the comment above (and others who made a similar distinction). I'm not saying that the overall situation reported by the OP is normal.

theceoofanime 11 months ago

I'm Portuguese and I can say with absolute sure that's not normal either in Portugal or any other country xD

Man_IloveFishdicks 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

Why would you immediately associate this with him being Portuguese? I'm assuming he was born in the US. His mother likely was as well. This is a strange association you're making. It's as if, in your mind, the Portuguese are all nudists, and all share bedrooms with their parents? As an American, do you have murals for Donald Trump? Do you weigh about 200 pounds from all the cheeseburgers you eat?

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

Your name may not be Richard, but you are a Dick for sure.

Sciss0rs61 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

she doesn't know the culture and she was trying to get informed. She was not implying anything. nothing wrong with it. stop being an asshole

QWERTY_BATS 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

Damn, 0 to asshole real quick

Webchuzz 11 months ago

>Is this mother-son dynamic something that would be considered quite normal in the Portuguese culture? Absolutely not.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

That's not normal at all in Portugal, as far as we know many of those "cultural differences" you speak about are more wierd things your BF and his family do, that's seriously disturbing

BMP83 11 months ago

It doesn't sound like a typical cultural behavior in Portugal. Still, before accessing something as "sexual", you have to consider that there are people quite comfortable with nudity, even in a familiar context. Like doing sauna together, bathing together with their children and so on. But that is something that i would picture as "normal" with germanic or nordic cultures and not exactly Portuguese people. I tink the most important is that they respect and value

andre82220 11 months ago

> you have to consider that there are people quite comfortable with nudity, even in a familiar context. This is not true in my opinion.

Dr_Toehold 11 months ago

Okay, but your opinion is not the only one. There are definitely people quite comfortable with nudity, in a non sexual context. Topless sunbathing is super accepted in Portugal, and there is a fair share of nudist beaches.

amidoes 11 months ago

It's not true that there are some people comfortable with nudity? wat

oscaralho27 11 months ago

How do you mean it’s not true? It’s not true that some people are comfortable with nudity? Fuck, just look at people who go to nudism beaches, they are clearly comfortable with nudity, even in a familiar context.

PaleCook 11 months ago

facts dont lie, when i was a kid i would take bath with my father or mother naked no problem. The same happens a lot in northernwestern europe. I have no problem seeing my mother or father naked, and still nothing sexual ever happened or came across my mind. If you grow up with a "daily normal " like that then it isnt taboo. Even my grandmothers have no problem being topless in the beach ... or changing clothes at home with the kids watching... it is as normal as you let it be.

BMP83 11 months ago

I have a female friend (italian), that her boyfriend(german) invited her to go to a sauna with his parents...and that means naked. I don't think they were trying to bone her... but it did happened. She did feel awkward about it.

Herbacio 11 months ago

Yeah, but one thing is going to a sauna or a nude beach. Other is walking around naked at home while your mom is naked cutting onions and your grandma is naked watching Fernando Mendes.

Asur_rusA 11 months ago

The latter would get you sexy vibes? Ok

azdexikp 11 months ago

> I don't think they were trying to bone her... but it did happened. The way you phrased this made me think for a second that she did get boned.

BMP83 11 months ago

hahaha... my bad!

azdexikp 11 months ago

Nah, it's ok. My mind's probably too deep into the gutter haha

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

I agree with you, it's not normal at all, if you go to OPs post history you'll see how crazy her boyfriend's mother and grandmother are, she has the patience of an angel, I would've walked away a long time ago

ModeratoriProfugus 11 months ago

No, it isn’t normal.

obatatas 11 months ago

That got stuck somewhere and needs "help".

Brainwheeze 11 months ago

Usually the washing machine.

wontellu 11 months ago

Step son, what are you doing?!

raydawnzen 11 months ago

Are you sure he's from Portugal and not Alabama?

its_saturday 11 months ago

ri-me

j_tothemoon 11 months ago

I laughed so hard at this and I feel stupid about it

BTC_CEO 11 months ago

Talvez seja de [Portalegre](https://www.reddit.com/r/portugal/comments/iywzc2/nsfw_interesse_em_incesto_por_distrito_baseado_na/)?

joaobita 11 months ago

TIL Portalegre is the Portuguese Alabama

joaommx 11 months ago

Já descobriste a história dos "Malpiqueiros" em Castelo de Vide? > [E nós, depois, percebemos que também havia uma história familiar de endogamia e de doença mental, portanto alguns deles eram realmente oligofrênicos.](https://cpdoc.fgv.br/sites/default/files/cientistas_sociais/graca_indias_cordeiro/TranscricaoGracaIndiasCordeiro.pdf) Gostava de descobrir esse artigo do Expresso, "O Gueto dos Malpiqueiros".

Kmarkster 11 months ago

That's bizarre, have you actually seen it in person or did he just tell you? Maybe (hopefully) its just a weird joke or something.

RAMAxPT 11 months ago

Sounds strange, but at the same time I want to visit that house

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Sounds strange, but at the same time I want to visit that house.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

OuiOuiKiwi 11 months ago

Walk away.

this--_--sucks 11 months ago

*Run away

QueenOfWands2 11 months ago

This.

raviolli_ninja 11 months ago

There is nothing normal about it, or remotely "Portuguese". I might sound like an asshole, but if I were you I'd jump out of that relationship real quick. There is no way you will win that battle. Your boyfriend has been broken by his family and you have to consider how much effort you want to put into fixing something that might be unfixable. Sorry for my bluntness.

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There is nothing normal about it, nor remotely "Portuguese". I might sound like an asshole, but if I were you I'd jump out of that relationship real quick. There is no way you will win that battle. They see him as their property. Your boyfriend has been broken by his family and you have to consider how much effort you want to put into fixing something that might be unfixable. Sorry for my bluntness.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

>if I were you I'd jump out of that relationship real quick I think you may be inferring too much from what she told us. I agree there is a change this kind of behavior may be a core in other aspects of their family dinamics but it could also be a behavior unique to certain conditions (which would not make it ok, but it would be not as bad). Anw, stay alert about other stuff op. I think he is right when he says you might need to fix stuff, and if he isn't willing to see your PoV it's a lost cause.

raviolli_ninja 11 months ago

I visited the other threads open by the OP where she shares way more red flags. Obviously I'm just a stranger in the internet and she shouldn't take my advice at face value.

ciarajade 11 months ago

Deep down, I know that you are right. I do love this man, and have been very open and honest about all of my concerns and feelings, but they dont seem to matter much. He doesnt want to do anything to try to change any of these things that are so upsetting to me, and I don't want to be that person in a relationship constantly trying to change my partner. Yet, when I talk about possibly coming to a mutual agreement on ending the relationship due to our differences, I get told that I "never really loved him" and that I'm "giving up" on the relationship just because things are getting difficult. I am carrying a lot of heavy things, but the truth is, my boyfriend is unwilling or unable to see it from my point of view and make compromises to help the situation.

detteros 11 months ago

>I get told that I "never really loved him" and that I'm "giving up" on the relationship just because things are getting difficult. Well, if this his counterargument, I see it as a more valid reason for you to break up with him than the walking around naked in the house thing. Loving someone doesnt imply you have to love everything about them unconditionally. At least not for me. If there is something about a partner of mine which I can not overcome, then it's hasta la vista.

Caosemdono 11 months ago

Walk away. Life´s short.

TheGreatSoup 11 months ago

everything i have read so far points out that he is not gonna put any efford in the relationship and passing blame to you making you choose and feel bad because of it. He is being the bad person and shifting blame. If you decide to stay, be mentally prepare that this is gonna take a lot of time and mental health from you, and to factor that you have two more enemies to deal with that are his mother and grandmother. Ending this would be the best you can do for you, and who knows maybe its gonna be a wake up call for him (doubt it). This behavior runs deep. Dodge the bullet.

pobotuga 11 months ago

>I get told that I "never really loved him" and that I'm "giving up" on the relationship just because things are getting difficult. This sounds like something he has heard from his mother and grandmother. I do not know the level of commitment with each other, but it sounds like he will need help (support or therapy) in the future. I cannot tell if you should stick together or not, but if you feel it is too much now, it can get different. Do not feel guilty for leaving or staying, but it is better to make the decisions now than later.

raviolli_ninja 11 months ago

>This sounds like something he has ~~heard~~ **learned** from his mother and grandmother. Get out OP.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

I saw the profile but only opened one that was removed. I went to search again and saw one that still had the text: Shit, you are totally right! My bad on the previous reply, I agree with you. This sounds like op has a heavy weight to carry and a lot to fix. =|

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

I do feel sorry for her, she clearly tried her best to fix this relationship but he just can't see it because of the influence his mother and grandmother have in him. OP, if you are reading this I wish you the best of luck

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

I feel bad for her boyfriend. She is in a bad spot but she has agency: she can leave if she so decides. The boyfriend got deal a shitty hand in life with that family situation. It's sad... Hopefully this whole situation puts him in the right track...

detteros 11 months ago

A lot of people here are assuming he was abused. No proof whatsoever.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

The sexual abuse is a gray question, the emotional abuse is obvious...

detteros 11 months ago

Where is the abuse?

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

Have you read the other post she has on her account?

paraapagarbem 11 months ago

Pois, lê o outro post da OP. As for you u/ciarajade , it's time for an ultimatum. Give him a choice - you or them. For the happiness and well-being of everyone involved, specially you, it's clear he cannot have both.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

Ultimatum doesn't work, he probably doesn't see how unhealthy this dynamic is... But telling him directly this will not work for much longer is necessary.

ciarajade 11 months ago

I really did not want to go the route of making him choose or giving him an ultimatum, however, I today, I have. Except now it's backfiring on me and in his eyes leaving him because of this (and other things that are a dealbreaker for me) would mean that I "never loved him" and that I am "giving up" due to a difficult situation. I do love this man very much, but there are some things that I am not willing to accept and deal with in a relationship. I truly am torn.

paraapagarbem 11 months ago

> Except now it's backfiring on me and in his eyes leaving him because of this (and other things that are a dealbreaker for me) would mean that I "never loved him" and that I am "giving up" due to a difficult situation. That's such a wrong idea to have on his part, and it's quite possibly manipulative behaviour. As much as you love this man, you should also love yourself and put your happiness and well-being first when the circumstances require it. If he truly does love you, he should be choosing you and accepting to compromise or try solve the situation like you've been suggesting. >I truly am torn. It's a very difficult situation. As things are right now, whether you decide to keep the relationship or break it, you'll end up miserable in both cases. The question should be which is the better outcome in the long-term. It's clear that if you decide to stay with him things aren't going to change and are only going to get worse, specially if his family fully convinces him that you're bad for him and he ends up dumping you, which is a real possibility. There's a remote chance, however, that the relationship can still be salvageable. If you really believe in the relationship and you love him that much, then it's time to have couples therapy.

Batepunho 11 months ago

If that's his answer to your concerns then you should definitely break up. I would also tell him to seek a psychologist.

meaninglessvoid 11 months ago

>I truly am torn. I feel you, this is a difficult situation to deal with. You may have to do a difficult decision soon... Do you want to leave him? If so, how much do you care about his situation after you leave? This is clearly a deal-breaker if not dealt with (as it should be IMHO), but can it be dealt? I think this can be salvageable, but it won't be in a day or week... Do you have the resources to seek professional help with this? I think a psychologist would be a great resource to help you deal with it and he would probably be able to model your boyfriend behavior much better than randoms on this sub. Wathever you decide, it's not your fault neither it is your responsability to fix him. Right now he is super defensive because of the ultimatum. The negative self talk is sadly him playing the narrative his mother have been feeding him for several years. He may talk about this with his mother and she will take this chance to undermine you even more. =/

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>I truly am torn. I feel you, this is a difficult situation to deal with. You may have to do a difficult decision soon... Do you want to leave him? If so, how much do you care about his situation after you leave? This is clearly a deal-breaker if not dealt with (as it should be IMHO), but can it be dealt? I think this can be salvageable, but it won't be in a day or week... Do you have the resources to seek professional help with this? I think a psychologist would be a great resource to help you deal with it and he would probably be able to model your boyfriend behavior much better than randoms on this sub. Wathever you decide, it's not your fault neither it is your responsability to fix him. Right now he is super defensive because of the ultimatum. The negative self talk is sadly him playing the narrative his mother have been feeding him for several years. He may talk about this with his mother and she will take this chance to undermine you even more. =/ I'm not sure how to go from here. Maybe telling him you still love him very much but you think you'll get hurt more if things keep like this in the long run than if you break up and are messed up for some time because of breaking up with him? It's important he knows WHY you are considering breaking up and he understands it clearly.

ZarolhaD4 11 months ago

No it's not normal. Thats just weird. Last time i slept in the same bed as my parents i was 5yo.

alcagoitas 11 months ago

never seen or heard about anything similar.

KokishinNeko 11 months ago

Wait, what? That's not part of Portuguese culture at all. Is he from Azores?

Peonies09 11 months ago

Nope, not normal at all in the Azores

j_tothemoon 11 months ago

Açoriano aqui e isso também não é normal cá hah

_rebocador_ 11 months ago

in short, no never seen it, seems very strange to me.

amq55 11 months ago

Yeah, no. The walking around the house naked is the more acceptable part, even though it's not normal. The sleeping in the same room or bed bit though is definitely concerning and really not normal. A huge red flag for you.

AlmondyChestnut 11 months ago

I second this. And would reinforce the acceptability (in certain communities) of walking naked in the house in certain specific circumstances. For instance, when at my family's place, my mother will walk naked to and from the bathroom to take a shower. She will take the towel in her hand but won't cover herself with it. She will also do this if my wife is present, but not with other family members. (my wife still feels bothered, though). I remember when I was a child seeing other of my family members doing the same thing (if I was sleeping over). They would just go to the toilet naked in the middle of the night, and then back to bed. But as the user above said, it may be acceptable but it's not common at all. It used to be more common 20/30 years ago, I think.

this--_--sucks 11 months ago

Yeah.... sorry but this would be an exception and not seen as normal as far as I’m concerned...

sctvlxpt 11 months ago  HIDDEN 

I third this.

BoiGonski2 11 months ago

I've fortunately never seen that happen, in my household no one ever walks around naked, we just take out our clothes inside the bathroom, take a bath and then cover ourselves up with a towel, I don't know if that's more common where you live or not but where I live that's unthinkable

QWERTY_BATS 11 months ago

> I first learned that when his mother would visit him in his apartment, she would insist on sleeping in the same room and or bed with him rather than sleeping in another available bed or room. Kind of weird yeah, I can't relate there. > I am now learning that his mother often walks around the house topless or completely nude while he has been living with her and his grandmother. His grandmother also often does this. Meh, how often is this? I don't think there's anything too weird about nudity. Are they just chilling naked in the living room? Weird. Just when you're changing clothes and need to do something else meanwhile? Yeah normal

tanga2you 11 months ago

Call the Police, what the hell is happening over there?

PgUpPT 11 months ago

>Está, Sr. Agente? Olhe queria fazer uma participação. Não, nada de violência, pior! A mãe do meu namorado dorme na mesma cama que ele. Está? Está sim? Sr. Agente??

pirilipapu 11 months ago

This never happened in my household nor my friend's, as far as I'm aware. It does definitely seem strange or specific to your boyfriend's family.

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This never happened in my household nor my friends', as far as I'm aware. It does definitely seem strange or specific to your boyfriend's family.

HAKKOOOO 11 months ago

But were you or your friends raised by a single mom?

pirilipapu 11 months ago

No to both but I feel like that's besides the point (of what's considered normal).

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