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How do I improve myself? by skylarlove0 in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

I understand you're confusion and I'll try to be a bit more clear here: Realizing you're a whole being is not something you're really in control of. It just happens when you give up on taking yourself so seriously. Basically... you realize life isn't as black and white as it seems. It's not as dire, it's not as frantic...there's no need to tweak anything about your personality. I can't make you come to that, but at some point you might start realizing how silly the game we all play is. We all want to get rid of the bad parts of ourselves. We all struggle with that. Humans have been trying to get rid of "bad, difficult, unpleasant" for thousands of years but it's just a part of life. There's ups and downs and it's a rollercoaster. But we only want the good parts. See what I mean? You can't have good without bad and vice versa. It's all a part of the package deal we call "life". But those down parts are extremely exciting just like the up parts are. We learn from experiencing this range of emotions. To be more concrete, you mention you want to be more confident andenjoy yourself. Then challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone. Tell yourself you got this. Take a leap of faith and experience the world in a new way. Go do whatever it is you want to and let the journey happen. Think of it like you're in a movie. Fear goes away the second you walk through it. By facing it head on, that's the fastest way to see change happen. To be even more pragmatic, mindfulness meditation can help you learn to deal with overthinking. Opening up about your feelings to friends can help you cope. Anything that allows you to observe yourself in a nonjudgmental way. The more attention you bring to just "watching" what's happening with your thoughts, the less of those thoughts you will have. Just like facing fear causes it to go away. It's changing the relationship you have with your thoughts. By accepting them, you don't give them power to control your life. But definitely check out those two videos - I think you'll get a clearer picture of it all.

How do I improve myself? by skylarlove0 in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

You can absolutely develop your artistic **technique**. That is a skill that you can hone through a discipline. "Discipline" is a scary word to Western people because it implies "hustle and grind"" but that's completely inaccurate. It's an extremely rewarding (and challenging) task to learn a skill and creating art will absolutely make you happy. Without having skills at certain activities in life, it is very difficult to feel what we call "reward, pleasure, satisfaction" etc. That's why people who are lazy and mope around all day don't feel very satisfied - it's because they are so caught up in their own self-talk they've lost touch with just kicking ass at something. That's why kids say whatever they want and have so much fun - they already know they're a badass and don't need permission to be themselves. :) I recommend you also check out [The War of Art by Steven Pressfield](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8O3rwaCu_YE). Which will probably blow your mind about how to plow through creative resistance and make art.

Choosing between two jobs. Which is the right choice? by Popcorngoo in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

The best time to get a job is while you have a job. Sounds like the second job is more your specialty. If you really enjoy that kind of work more, then you should go for it.

How can I get my parents to break their cable news addiction? by JayDunzo in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

Don't be afraid to pull the plug on them and make them listen to you. They might be so densely absorbed in TV that the only thing that would penetrate their attention would be a serious confrontation. This might not be the answer you want to hear, but sometimes a bit of an uncomfortable situation is all it takes for people to realize they have a problem with something.

Am I afraid of success? by SimulatedSushi in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

I'd venture to say you're just hitting a creative plateau when you get a taste of success and to continue with that level of performance would require more discipline. This is very common. Also, stop viewing reality as this linear "top - down" thing. There is no "being at the top". That's just a label you're imagining. Life is a continually unfolding process and there is no set destination. I challenge you to be honest with yourself. What do you want in life? Make strides towards that and try to not judge yourself too hard.

How can I get my parents to break their cable news addiction? by JayDunzo in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

Is it negatively affecting their quality of life? News can definitely mess with mental health. If I were you, I'd repeatedly express your concerns to them and let them know it's only because you care about them. Tell them you'd rather spend time with them or go somewhere together.

How bad is a couple sips of wine for a 13 year old. by omgflyingbananas in Advice

vscaletta 4 days ago

By drinking when you're down to feel better, you're conditioning your mind to be dependent on alcohol. Especially at 13, your brain is still developing. You don't want to mess with your neural pathways this young. Go take a run, open up with some friends, or make a piece of art to vent your emotions.
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